It seems lately people are running. Running towards something or running from something, I’m not sure which. They haven’t stopped long enough to figure it out either, because there are too many expectations to be met. Stillness does not exist in their world. Life is an endless quest to obtain more, yet people feel they have less. The entire world seems to be chasing this moving target all the while missing out on the magic. There is this pervasive feeling of needing to prove something to someone or yourself. Maybe you are better at making money, churning out successful kids, taking better vacations, or climbing the corporate ladder. It’s a dog eat dog world out there, congratulations for winning the game. What if society got it wrong though? What if the point is to enjoy life, to be happy, to share moments and create memories with family and friends. What if the crazy work week is actually robbing you of everything that is important in life, which is precious time. What if the point is to stop for a moment, and make eye contact with your wife and tell her she is beautiful rather than dash here and there trying to get the lawn mowed and your morning bike ride in? What if we have spent our entire life missing the point? What if we have been working for 25 years at a job that we hate because we felt trapped and don’t have the courage to do something we love? We create our life experiences. We choose to stay in jobs that aren’t fulfilling, work for bosses who are more concerned about their bonus and bottom line than the human condition. It is never too late to honor your soul and make a change. Excuses are your fears wrapped in paper with a shiny bow on top. Excuses give you the gift of mediocrity.
Are you burying your distress in sugar, carbs & alcohol? Are you shopping obsessively to fill a void within? Are you judging the people around you because you feel like you don’t measure up in the looks, or income department? Are you staying in a relationship you aren’t really invested in because it’s just easier than getting a divorce and flying solo? Do you work out obsessively so you don’t have to face yourself or your truth? How did we stray so far from our authentic self? It happened innocently, by listening to the voice of our parents, society, our friends and ignoring the one voice that mattered the most, your own! Time after time we buried that truth by following the crowd. Do this long enough, and you can’t even tell you who you are anymore. It is time to come back to center, to come back to what is important to you. It is time to honor your soul. It is time to realize that the only person who has control over you, is you. You can decide what you would like to create in your life. Show up for yourself and stop trying to please everyone. Trust me when I say the others are so busy looking in the mirror, they aren’t even paying attention to you and what you are doing. Depending on how long you have been living the lie, it might take a while to find your way back to your authentic self.
It took me 50 years to stand in my power. I was everything but myself to please everyone. The irony is, no matter what I did, no one was every happy with me anyway. I wasn’t churning out the perfect model kids, yes, they were smoking weed! There, I said it. Yes, my kids hated school and smoked weed and partied and played music and didn’t study for their S.A.T. exam! I still feel the judgment sometimes from family members around that and other decisions I’ve made. Well guess what? Life doesn’t deliver perfect packages with neat red bows on them. We had shit to deal with like financial stress, relationship stress, kid stress, work stress. I was just trying to survive, and the judgment didn’t help! It made me feel worse about myself. The light finally went off one day when I heard the whisper to save myself. I was so far from my soul truth I felt like all that was left was this small burning ember and it was about to flame out. It was only then that I began the journey back to my soul. I was so fried at that point, it just didn’t matter what anyone thought about me. It was time to honor myself and figure out who I was without all the different masks on. It took me a long time to pull all those masks off to figure out who I am at the core and what I came into this life to do. Trust me when I say, if I can do it so can you. Honor your soul and let your heart sing.