Many of us are at a crossroads in our lives. An eternal shift is taking place as children go off to college, parents age, maybe relationships end, children move out or move back in. Family members pass away or perhaps require more active care on our part. Who are we becoming as we go through these changes and what are we learning about ourselves? For me it has been an endless evolution of the soul. How can I show up with unconditional love for everyone as they navigate their lives while honoring myself during each transition?
The answer came swiftly and powerfully to always honor myself and set healthy boundaries. It’s easy to be sucked in and influenced by the people around us. Expectations are the breeding ground for discontent. One of the healthiest things I realized and embraced was the fact that your agenda is not my agenda. I am not obligated to acquiesce, comply, or act in a way that demands that I compromise my truth, my boundaries or my authentic power. Crossroads allow us to change course and set sail for another destination. They are not to be feared, but to be embraced as we chart a new course and direction for our personal growth.
Often discomfort is the only thing that pushes us to change our unhealthy behavior patterns with people, things, and even ourselves. When a lobster outgrows its shell, it becomes so uncomfortable it is forced to crawl under a rock and shed its shell. During that time, it is exposed and vulnerable, which is probably why it waits so long to free itself from a shell it has long outgrown. Humans are much the same. We outgrow our mindset, jobs, and relationships, and yet, fear holds us back from choosing to change. This requires a level of courage and vulnerability, but at some point, remaining stuck becomes so unbearable we hit the fear override button and move forward.
We are constantly being guided by our higher selves to align with ourselves. Resistance creates chaos, surrender and acceptance creates ease. It’s time to crack open and shed the shell you have been holding on to. It is probably 3 sizes too small and extremely uncomfortable to remain! What is the best way to navigate our way forward? Create a tribe to support you. It can be colleagues, a friend, a therapist, a relative. Seek out someone who is on your team. Find someone who believes in you. You must also believe in yourself. Many of us are our own worst enemy. Old fear programs creep in planting seeds of doubt about what we are capable of.
In choosing what road to take it’s helpful to release the old thought patterns and create a new empowered inner dialogue. Ask empowered questions. Who am I? What is possible for me? How do I move forward? We did not come into this life to remain in a prison of our own design. We came here to create and express ourselves fully and completely, to experience a wide range of emotions and LIVE our lives.
Invite possibility and opportunity into your life. Open the heart, open the mind, and pay attention to what is presenting in life. Accept where you are emotionally and follow the prompts guiding you to the next step. Silence the mind! Refuse to allow negative thinking or fear in. I release anything that does not move me forward which means thoughts, behaviors, actions, and people. Recognize that fear is a program running deep in your DNA, it can be deleted. I chose to overwrite and delete the program! I am here to thrive not survive. I expect amazing days and opportunities, I expect to receive magic in my life and the Universe delivers it to me. My vibration, my energy is like a beacon sending a signal out into the multiverse and whatever is in resonance comes back to me. I expect to be on time when I travel, that there is no wait at the check in kiosk, that there is no line when I walk up to TSA. Seriously, that is the experience I have. What we expect we create energetically.
When you are at the crossroads listen to your heart. Don’t analyze everything or over think. Don’t drive yourself crazy by remaining stuck in a loop which keeps you from making the highest and best decisions. Align with your highest potential and choose the action that will move you forward, enhance your life, take yourself to the next level (whatever that level is). Sometimes the metamorphosis can, to the external observer, look like a train wreck but know that before anything new can be built sometimes a clearing has to happen. Something needs to be destroyed in order to create the next masterpiece.
Time is of the essence as we reach ever higher in our evolution. Those who choose to languish and refuse to do their inner healing work, those who continue to create and live in the lower echelons of addiction, drama and chaos will find it harder and harder to climb out. If you find yourself in this bandwidth reach higher. The template you are choosing serves no one and that experience has served its purpose. Align with your heart, with your truth and believe everything is possible.