As we close out 2019 it feels like it has been a year of emotional tests for many of us. For me personally there was a lot of chaos swirling around me, but instead of looking at it as a battle, the experiences were an opportunity to show up as my highest and best self. I let go of a lot of things that no longer served me. Opportunities were presented to practice the art of detachment. It’s funny how life presents experiences designed to trigger the very thing we are meant to heal and master. I was the eye of the storm, calm, quiet, and observing the events swirling around me. From this space of observing I was able to hold space for all the players in the game, send love, and hold the highest timeline for all. This required a lot of conscious moments, a knowing when I needed to rest or remove myself to meditate and center myself. Just because people around us are triggered doesn’t mean we have to be.
The chaos around us doesn’t mean we have to invite chaos within us. As we approach the year 2020 let’s allow and release EVERYTHING that no longer serves us. We choose how we show up in the world which means we can invite things that support us into our lives. People who lack emotional control are experts at stirring the pot wherever they go, don’t engage, release them. Avoid events where toxic family members and dysfunction reign supreme. Come down with the flu or a reason to remove yourself from events that make you feel worse when you leave. Think about who makes you feel loved and connect with those people, they are your tribe! Create harmony within your living space by clearing out clutter, create harmony within your mind by doing the same.
This is a year of creation and magic. You hold the keys to the many doors leading you to your future. Which door will you unlock this year? What are you willing to let go of to live your best life? Who are you becoming as a result of the choices you are making? Creating a detailed picture of what it is you wish to create is where the idea begins to take shape. There must be some form of structure or foundation from which to build on. When we send our thoughts and energy out into the Universe, the Universe answers. Be mindful of the direction of your thoughts, they hold more power than you realize.
As we move into the new year, we are gifted an opportunity to release everything that no longer aligns with who we are. This is the time to completely clear your personal field. Think of it as a filter that you will pass through as you transition from 2019 into 2020. Focus on what you want to bring with you into the next decade and release everything that doesn’t feel aligned. This requires taking inventory of the people you are hanging out with, the things you are putting into your body, the thoughts that you carry with you, the stories that no longer serve you. You are panning for Gold and must let go of all the dust and debris that is impeding your progress.
A new mindset is required. Invite balance, harmony and presence into your life, push negativity, criticism, and judgment out. Breathe deeply on the inhale and create passionately on the exhale. Life experience is our teacher, take the lessons and detach from the story associated with the experience. People tend to create an unhealthy emotional attachment to what is perceived as “negative” experiences. These are sign posts to get you to pay attention to what inside of you needs to be healed and released.
What direction are you being guided to go next? Follow the signs! We have been programmed since birth that we are not enough. It’s time to delete that program and upgrade the software. Everything is possible, but a healthy mindset and the willingness to follow your heart is essential to move forward. Tapping into your intuition takes practice but over time, your connection to yourself will grow. Connection to your inner GPS will guide you to your highest potential. It’s the inner voice and your inner being telling you to leave that job or follow your passion. Silence the critics, let go of the fear.
Fear is an illusion designed to keep you from living your best life. It is not tangible, but it’s powerful. The beauty around fear is you can choose to do something anyway. The worse thing that can happen is you learn something about yourself in the process. We are here for the lessons and our guides are provided. The right people tend to come along at the right time. Whether they challenge us or embrace us they are placed in our path to illuminate something within us. Those who challenge us the most in our lives spark powerful growth. Learn to listen to your heart, that’s where the truth lies.
Living your best life requires acknowledgement of the truth around who you are. What is driving your behavior? Is this how you want to show up in the world? Getting very clear about what’s driving your life choices creates the aha moment. This is when the stage curtains go up and the studio spotlight is illuminating you bare naked on the stage. It’s an uncomfortable place, but necessary. I’ve been there. I didn’t like what I saw. I spent my entire life projecting everything inside of me outward. My insecurity, my feelings of being invisible, my story that I didn’t matter created behavior patterns and situations to validate all of it. Nothing was my fault, I was always asking why me, instead of what is this here to teach me. None of my victim story was true, but I convinced myself it was then created situations in my life to prove it! It was humbling to come face to face with my truth, to realize I played a role in everything. The difficult relationships, the financial choices, the way I raised my kids and impacted them, I was responsible for my part in all of it.
That was my come to Jesus moment. How could I be so blind all those years? How could I live such an unconscious life? The gift in the awareness though was the knowing that it was all as it was meant to be. I experienced all of it for the duality. We must experience darkness to appreciate the light. I no longer wanted to be that person holding onto those stories remaining stuck in those patterns. I knew I could change, but what surprised me was how long it took the people around me to accept that I had changed. Once a person decides to start healing, there’s sort of a ripple effect that goes out and touches everyone around them. I was surprised that no one was encouraging or supportive of the inner work and healing I was doing. Most of the people in my life started to get fearful around who I was becoming. I was in new uncharted territory. I was more isolated than ever, but I persevered.
Once I stepped onto my path of healing, I refused to compromise myself to make others feel comfortable. As a lifelong people pleaser and perfectionist, I had to really be present to the push back I was getting. I couldn’t understand how I could become the highest and best version of me while the people around me resisted that. I now know that their own inner stuff was being triggered and illuminated. Their own fears were rising fast and furiously to the surface and I was the one triggering them somehow. I stood fast and strong, I no longer acted in a codependent way. It felt like I was in a strong current but so deeply anchored into my being nothing could move me. The stronger and more aligned you become the easier it is to set healthy boundaries. Those who were used to me bending and accommodating didn’t like that I started saying no. The rules of engagement changed.
We are closing out an entire decade, 10 years of life patterns and growth are coming to close in a few short days. This is the time to reset, move forward, and CHOOSE YOU! I have spent 10 years learning how to live my best life. I guide people through the process. It doesn’t matter what your external picture looks like. All the cars, homes, money and stuff in the world will not help you to feel whole and complete on the inside. Going deep and doing your inner work, slaying the beast, peeling back layers of shit and healing is what will make you feel whole and complete. From this place of empowerment nothing can stop you. Give me a call if you are ready to go quantum. 2020 is only days away and I’m ALL IN! Are you?